“Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.”
-Tony Robbins

John Koenig worked on Madison Avenue, writing ad copy for some of the biggest brands of the day.  His encore career has been that of hypnotist, and John has brought the wisdom of years spent crafting language to influence people over to his work as a hypnotist.  One of the ways he does that is through his “possibilities process,” which is a wonderful way of getting people to ask better questions of themselves so that they can come to new understandings.  That’s what we talk about in this interview.

Because I’m human, I catch myself doing the very things that we discuss in this interview that I know I shouldn’t be doing.  Every now and then I’ll ask myself, “Why is it so hard for me to lose weight?” or “What the hell is my problem?”  Developing the awareness of when we ask these unhelpful questions, and replacing them with questions that will actually move us forward, is an important skill.

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Nicholas Spohn is a cool dude.  He was briefly a professional mixed martial arts fighter, built a successful real estate business, and now uses hypnotism, neuro-linguistic programming, and other modalities to help people create positive changes in their lives.

When Nicholas was visiting my home awhile back, I was telling him about my frustrations with my weight, and how doubly frustrating it is to know hypnotism, yet not use if for weight loss.  He asked me if I had tried the Dickens process, and then explained why he thought it was such a powerful experience to have.  In this interview, we re-visit that conversation and go deeper on the topic.

The important takeaway from this interview that will benefit almost everyone is the reminder that human beings are generally more focused on avoiding pain than getting pleasure.  If you struggle with your weight, this may seem counterintuitive to you, since you get a lot of pleasure from food, but if you can shift your thinking to see that you’re using the pleasure of food to avoid the pain of _____, then you’ll have a better understanding of your own situation.  What pain is it that you are really avoiding?  And if you used the Dickens process, how could you envision much greater pains that have come from, are coming from, or will come from the way you use food?  When you skyrocket that pain response, you might be able to break out of the comfort of using food the way your currently do.

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Small victory, but I’ll take it.  With the fourth of July holiday mixed into last week, which did involve some cookouts and indulgent choices, to drop a pound and a half is okay in my book.

Last week, I brought up the idea of becoming more aware of when I’m truly hungry and when I’m not.  So, toward the end of the week, I started the practice of not eating until I actually felt hungry, and I actually found that I wasn’t eating until one or two in the afternoon!  I don’t expect that to last forever, but it has been a fascinating experience to have.

I’m also starting to do better with my water intake.  I’ve gone from one or two glasses a day to 3-4 glasses a day.  I have a feeling that next week my numbers are going to show a considerable improvement.  It feels like momentum is finally building.

This one didn’t surprise me, actually.  I was good most of the week with nutrition and water intake, but then I checked out over the weekend.  I also finished chopping all my firewood last week, and haven’t found a good replacement activity in the mornings.

I keep thinking about one simple idea: why do I eat when I’m not hungry?  There is probably more than one answer to that question, but the overarching theme is all that matters, for now.  I’ve created habits that don’t serve me.

I just want to spend the next week really focusing on increasing my awareness of when I actually feel hungry and when I don’t.